Our family dynamics tends to often intrigue others. Here are the most common questions we are asked about our home life.

How long have you been a couple?

We've been together for 12 years. 

Are you two married on paper?

Yes, we had a commitment ceremony in 2007, but were finally able to get legally married in July 2011 in Washington D.C.  

How did two moms end up with 7 kids?

Well...girl w/4kids meets girl with 1kid. Falls in love, gets married and together have 2(twins) more kids... 

Wait you've been together for a decade, but a same sex couple...How did you two

conceive the twins?!

We used a donor bank 

Was conception successful on the first try?

No. We actually dealt with infertility. It was a roller coaster and took several attempts along with an intervention in order for us to conceive. Find out more here.

The twins look more like you, did your wife carry your eggs?

 She did not. But we did go about choosing a donor with similar characteristics.

Who's the "man" in your relationship?

LOL! This question is always funny to me. But to answer it, we both are the woMAN. There are NO designated positions in our household. If there is a mess clean it up. If the clothes need washing wash them, and if the grass needs cutting avoid it until one of us can't take it any longer or my father-in-law cuts it first. :)

But from a pure personality perspective, I am more of the silly one that enjoys tending to the house and kids and she is more of the serious type who enjoys work, work, work and tending to work. Yep, work. If you were drawing conclusion by outer expression (such as clothes) you'd be surprised. We are both pretty androgynous there as well. 

With two moms in the house, how do the kids differentiate?

 They call me mommy, and they call my wife mama.

Are all 7 kids in the house?

We have 4 children at home, 3 adult children, and now 1 grand daughter.

Which child has an autism diagnosis?

One of our twins.

Do you believe the sperm bank is the reason your son has autism?

 Absolutely not.

So the twins will never know their biological/paternal family?

We did use a willing to be known donor. This means at the age of 18 the donor agreed to meet the child(ren) if they (the kids) so choose. 

How do the twins get along with one being special needs?

Pretty much like any other siblings. Love each other one moment, fight the next.  

How do the kids deal with you being an alternative family?

Our youngest  children (all 4 of them) have never really mentioned it. The older ones thankfully have had little to no issues from friends. I guess they know how to choose true friends.  

  

Did we miss anything?! Just place your question in the comment section below or email it to: ColorMeKris@gmail.com. We'll be happy to add it to the list!